Nasihat Jimmy

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Ada yang bilang, persahabatan tak mengenal usia, tak mengenal jarak, tak mengenal waktu, tak mengenal agama. Sosok sahabat sejati kutemukan pada diri Jimmy, pria 82 tahun asal Kanada. Pria yang belakangan ini menjadi kakek bagi keluarga kami. Ia kerap membawa tawa dan menjadi sahabat yang setia.

Jimmy seorang pekerja keras. Usianya lebih tua dari nenekku tetapi semangatnya seperti pria sehat berumur 30 tahun!! Ia lebih dulu menjadi sahabat Gayatri kakakku, ketika ia bekerja di Houston. Saat ia mengunjungi kami di Indonesia, aku seperti memiliki kakek baru. Pertama bertemu, kami bukanlah seperti orang asing yang berbeda negara. Dia lucu, perhatian, dan memperlakukan kami sangat hormat bagai anaknya sendiri. (Jimmy sudah punya 8 cucu!!)

Jimmy mengajak makan malam. Aku, Loren, Christy, dan Gayatri mengajaknya ke Bandar Jakarta. Dia selalu tanya, makanan apa yang kami suka. Kami belum pernah makan lobster. Akhirnya dia membeli dua lobster untuk kami berempat.

So Jimmy, do you like seafood?”

I see food and i eat it“. Hahahahaa. He always makes us laugh.

Lalu, Jimmy menawarkan lagi makanan, Christy bilang, dia sudah kenyang.

No, thanks Jimmy, I’m full

What? You’re fool?”

Ahahaahahaa. Jimmy tahu cara menghibur. Dia tak lupa mengingatkan kami untuk selalu berdoa sebelum melakukan kegiatan apapun. Jimmy seorang Zoroastrian yang taat. Dia selalu mengingatkan kami untuk pergi ke gereja dan hormat pada orang tua.

Setelah tiga hari berada di Indonesia, Jimmy pergi ke Malaysia dan Australia untuk melanjutkan pekerjaannya. Namun, kami tak pernah lepas berkirim surat elektronik. Jimmy menjadi sahabat pena yang setia. Saat beberapa sahabat memilih lupa dan memutuskan tali silaturahmi, tidak bagi Jimmy. Dia tak pernah absen menanyakan kabar kami sekeluarga. Satu per satu nama anggota keluarga kami dia sebut. Saat Gayatri pulang larut malam, Jimmy menelepon dan memintaku untuk tidak tidur sebelum Gayatri tiba di rumah.

Jimmy tak pernah ingin kehilangan teman. Hobinya adalah mencatat tanggal ulang tahun sahabat-sahabatnya dan berkirim surat. Baginya, persahabatan adalah harta yang tak ternilai.

He is an angel

Saat aku pergi jauh, aku tak lupa pamit padanya. Aku minta ia mendoakanku kepada Ahura Mazda, sebutan Tuhan untuk para Zoroastrian. Saat aku sedih, entah kenapa aku langsung menumpahkan segala keluh kesah padanya. Mungkin karena aku tau, dia akan bersikap netral dan selalu siap menjadi pendengar yang baik.

Kemarin, dalam perjalanan menuju kantor, tak sengaja aku menangis saat membaca email darinya. Dia mengajarkanku bagaimana untuk tetap berdiri kuat saat masalah-masalah kecil datang.

My dear Narita, please stay happy and keep smiling. 

Did you know that the most destructive habit we thrive on is “Worry”? The greatest joy in life is giving and the greatest loss we suffer is when we lose self-respect.

Sweetheart, the most effective sleeping pill is to have peace of mind. The most crippling disease for failure is our ability to invent excuses. However, the most powerful force in life is our ability to “Love everything around us”.

You may be wondering why I have come into your life! How come I am able to understand and sense some of your intense personal conflicts, trials and tribulations!!?? Some people are able to understand the underlying grief and challenges of people that one has barely met, leaving aside knowing them well. Fortunately for me, I am able to sense some of your pain and anxiety within you, yet with your beautiful and charming smile you project calm and peace outwardly. 

Narita, the difference between life and death… Is Breath. Somehow, we do not appreciate the value of this breath until we get choked or it is gone. We tend to live life on a life support system…. We are living, breathing, but we are not fully alive. We look for ‘near death’ experiences, instead of ‘dear breath’ experiences as opportunities to learn. We ‘get-up’ with a disorganized life style, to ‘set-up’ an organized living style.

We spend all our time living everyone else’s life, not realizing that in life there are no victims – only volunteers. We believe what the newspapers say, but always question what the Holy book says. We allow the DO NOTs in our life, to become the KNOTS of our life.

The greatest challenge one needs to overcome is Fear, the worst thing to be without is Hope, the most powerful channel of communication is Prayer and the most beautiful attire is SMILE!

Remember, in life love never dies. It lives in the people you love and my love, affection and respect for you will live within you forever. Please allow me to leave a legacy of LOVE in your daily LIFE.

Hmm..ya, when i’m sad because the guy that i loved leave me, he teach me to face it.

Narita, we never get what we want, but then never want what we get!! We never have what we like, but we never like what we have, and yet we still live & love each other. That is life my ‘dear princess and sunshine of my life’!! I feel very sorry for you and want to further share some of the things we may have talked earlier or discussed while I was in Jakarta.

Sweetheart, the best kind of friend you can have is the kind you can sit on a porch and swing in the wind, never say a word and then walk away feeling like it was the best conversation you have ever had!!

It is true that we do not know what we have until it is gone. But it is also true, that we do not know what we have been missing until it arrives!!

Giving someone all your love is never an assurance that they will love you back! Do not expect love in return; just wait for it to grow in their heart. But if it does not, be content that it grew in yours.

I know, i am not alone. And i will choose to be gentle. I hope one day, i’m gonna meet someone who really like him: respect life, wise, and become blessing for surrendering people.. Thanks to teach me how to face this life.

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